People have feelings about leggings as pants.

Strong feelings- like, don't talk about politics, religion, or leggings at family holiday dinners.

And it's not just feelings about leggings as pants, but leggings in general.

There's the pearl clutching, covering their husband's and son's eyes (because heaven forbid they exercise some form of self control) sort of feelings.

And the "so long as her shirt covers her butt and is loose enough to not warrant pearl clutching and eye covering" sort of feelings.

I know this is true because I've read more than a few blog posts shaming leggings and the women who choose to wear them.

Then, on the other side, we have the feelings of those who swear by leggings, those who live in leggings, and those who search high and low for the perfect pair of leggings as evidenced by the "Best black leggings under $99!" posts.

Personally, I prefer leggings. It's a combination of needing to run after little kids all day/becoming irritable after wearing jeans for longer than six hours/thicker thighs and butt that has me buying them more and more. (If you're wondering, my favorite pair is from Costco and less than $20. Sorry, no affiliate link.)

Why do I bring this up?

Because it's sweater weather. Like, legitimately.

We're past the false alarm that was September/early October. We're no longer wearing a sweater in the morning like dressing for autumn is our damn job, just to be sweating by noon.

Hallelujah, we're now in the safe zone of sweaters, boots, and what do we wear with sweaters and boots?

Ding ding ding- leggings would be one correct answer.

With the pitchforks that come from some at the sight of leggings as pants, it's an answer that needs some defending, and I'm feeling like doing just that.

So here it is.

I'm not going to appeal to any high moral ground.

I'm not going to attempt to deconstruct any "modesty" argument (not today, anyway).

I'm not going to tell you why men are capable of respecting women regardless of what they are, or aren't, wearing.

I'm just going to leave it at this:

Leggings can function as pants, whether a woman has a booty or not.

Leggings are acceptable with sweaters, even if the sweater isn't knee length.

You're going to see a lot of women wearing leggings out and about.

If you have a problem with it, kindly fuck off.


Raising awareness, increasing support

My middle child is three, almost four.

She just started her second year of preschool, and her third year of speech therapy (given the fact she will talk to you for ask long as you'll listen, and her impressive use of adverbs, you might not guess she had a severe language delay).

Her classroom is already filled with friends- old ones from last year and new ones she's just met. It's not in her nature to let classmates be acquaintances. Everyone is her good friend, and she packs her backpack with cards and pictures she's drawn to pass out to them weekly. She taught herself to sign her name on her own.

Her latest hobby is puppet making- meticulously sticking eyes and wings to old socks and brown paper sacks then hiding behind the sofa and putting on a show for her siblings.

She's delightful, to say the least.

She's determined. She knows what she wants out of life and she goes for it with everything she has. She asks questions about everything, and she loves to learn.

At three, she doesn't yet understand what alcohol is.


In the wake of Charlottesville, I went to a solidarity rally. The importance of getting out and physically being present for something is paramount to me.

The need to support and fight for friends, neighbors, and loved ones of color cannot, and should not, be ignored, and I'm looking for every possible way to do just that.

The rally itself was good. As was expected, the energy of hundreds of like-minded people who are fighting for the same purpose is as refreshing as it is healing.

There was a counter protest right next to the rally, and members of the alt-right wove their way through the crowd the entire time, but even with their knives, guns, and bats, they could not take away from the message.

A handout was distributed to those in the crowd with the image of a triangle on it. The top point was labeled OVERT WHITE SUPREMACY, and filled with things that are "socially unacceptable." The base, making up the majority of the triangle, was labeled COVERT WHITE SUPREMACY, and filled with actions that are supposedly more "socially acceptable."

No one wants to called a white supremacist any more than they want to be called a racist. So many care so much about being labeled as such, yet they do nothing about recognizing and changing any behavior that contributes to racism.

Racist systems do not need racist people to uphold them. At the very least, they need people who will look the other way (see: systemic racism vs personal racism).

White supremacy has its followers. It also has people who would never associate themselves with the alt-right or the KKK, but who unknowingly act in ways that do, indeed, maintain white supremacy.

For the sake of not missing the point entirely, let's lose the idea that anyone is trying to call you a white supremacist (unless you are, in which case, why are you reading this?). Instead, focus on learning what behavior contributes to damaging systems, so that you can take an introspective look and correct anything that needs immediate correcting.

You with me?

Let's start with the obvious: